Exceptions: if your other feels crummy or ill or had a bad day or hard night before, don’t ask — just do both. No complaints. This is caring for each other.
Exceptions: if you feel languid and enjoyably indifferent — ON OCCASION — to the social compact of bed-making, the other party can make the bed this once without shouting a bitch-storm. After all, that person would be doing both if that person were living alone.
Keeping in mind Rule 4: some folks (such as yours truly) get antsy if the bed goes too long unmade, while others feel the rule has been appropriately observed if the bed gets made (a) before we leave the house, (b) before noon, or (c) during the clean-up-and-face-the-day process, whenever that might be. If I can’t handle the bedmaker’s timeline for performance, I need to make the bed (without bitching) to soothe myself.
Do not make the coffee until there is a reasonable expectation of wakefulness on the part of all parties, or someone will be punished for healthy sleep with old java.
Exception: what time is it? If there is no arrangement to let the person sleep no later than X-hour, let the person sleep, and if the hour grows late, make coffee. Make half the usual amount, if you need to, but the social compact is not designed to force you to live a caffeine-free existence while someone gets beauty sleep.
Puttering vs. non-puttering (verbal and physical). Respect each other. If you jump out of bed like a nervous gazelle and need to get all your chores done before breakfast, that’s fine, but can you use earbuds? If you live with someone whose waking process involves a time-lapse of human evolution, chances are good that Alley Oop doesn’t want “Walking On Sunshine” bouncing off his mental tentacle and won’t for some time. But slow risers need to respect the early birds, the cheerful risers, the hard-working springbok pinballing around the house, for lo, they are the bitches who get shit done and have the rest of the day to chill. Why make chores last longer than they have to? If you’re that slow to wake, maybe stay in bed. Chances are good that you will wake to a clean house, a special breakfast, a fun plan for the day, and something nice in the slow-cooker for later.